You know what they say about butterflies, they’re not what they use to be. Ha! And they’re right! Butterflies don’t start out as the colorful, beautiful flying insects they are. In fact, they start out as small, caterpillar-like creatures and they transform over time through four different stages during their lifetime: egg, larva, pupa, and adult.
If you are curious, here’s the entire life cycle in 2 mins: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kVm5k99PnBk. Enjoy!
Relationships go through four different stages during their lifetime too!!!
The same can be said about our romantic relationships. They also go through stages to mature into something beautiful, harmonious, fulfilling, and meaningful.
The metamorphosis stage is all about transformation. The word ‘metamorphosis’ comes from the two Greek words ‘meta’ meaning change and ‘morphe’ meaning form. The suggestion is that something undergoes a change, in which it assumes a different form. You could say that this is where the relationship evolves from its youthful stage to a more adult, mature one. This is a special moment in your relationship where you both feel very close and committed to each other. You each become more involved in the relationship and establish a more meaningful connection with your person and there is a clear commitment and dedication to the long-term success of the relationship.
What is the purpose of relationships?
For this process to take place, you both have to be on the same page on what the purpose of relationships is. In the book, A Return to Love, Marianne Williamson states that there’s a clear distinction between what our ego thinks relationships are for versus what God intended them to be; and those two ideas are completely different. She says, “to the ego, a good relationship is one in which another person basically behaves the way we want them to, and never presses our buttons and never violates our comfort zones. But if a relationship exists to support our growth, then in many ways it exists to do just those things and to force us out of our limited tolerance and inability to love unconditionally.”
When in the ego, you’re not actually in a relationship with the other person, you’re in a relationship with the ego’s perception of that person. This includes all of your unresolved past wounds and unconscious patterns. These unconscious patterns explain why we tend to repeat the same mistakes in our relationships. To override these patterns, you need to consciously decide to break them. You need to assess and change your core beliefs about what relationships are for. And this is exactly what your person is there to help you do, by showing you the parts within you that still need healing.
So, be like a butterfly - grow, evolve, and transform.
Blessings,
#LifeCoachAngel