An average frustrated chump, simply known as an “AFC”, is a term that if it offends your manhood, then it is very likely that you’re one. Being an AFC does not discriminate on whether you are a liberal, conservative, Democrat, Republican, starving artist, weight lifter, or even the premier hot shot lawyer in your city. In a nutshell, it has nothing to do with your income or confidence level. However, it portrays the view people have of themselves and women when it comes to dating. They normally have an over-inflated sense of self and unreachable standards when it comes to the women they should date. You’ll normally hear statements such as “You must be educated” or “You need to be attractive”, but they’ll hardly explain what they have to bring to the table. An Average Frustrated Chump will remain one until they realize that they must first learn to be a gentleman and solidify their respect for women.
So why are they average? Because unless a woman is distracted with her own image and esteem issues, she will be hardly impressed by this kind of male. Notice how I avoided the term ‘man’, as an AFC has not learned the virtues of maturity and appreciation of a woman. They feel that the world revolves around them and also that the world, instead of themselves, are to blame for their dating woes. Similar to blogs that explain traits of a narcissist, an AFC is a first cousin to a narcissist, with the blaring exception that they vocalize their insecurities. They are yet to learn how to control their frustrations, and in doing so are diminishing their chances while increasing their manufactured mental check list.
Some signs you might be going on a date with an AFC:
- Subtle signs of frustration with dating
- Sharing much more negative than positive dating stories
- Non-verbal language such as hunched shoulders, rarely smiling, and appearing uncomfortable
- Low passion and/or energy
Now if you are reading this and feel you fit the above, swallow your unjustified pride and make the necessary changes. Failure to do so will only lead you to a road of continual anguish and a warped perception of dating. First understand that women will not stop rejecting, avoiding, or being not-so-punctual to your date. They will also continue to be loving, supportive, and even work out with you if you’re so worried about their looks. The change from AFC to gentleman is looking yourself in the mirror and asking yourself, “Do I hate myself or women?”, and if you even get the slightest feeling you do – that’s your alarm. Meditate, reminisce on good experiences, and prioritize goals that will lead you to self-evolution. Let’s use the analogy of your car desperately needing an oil change after being full of corrosion and blowing smoke as it drives. This is akin to an attitude that needs to be flushed out with realistic positivity and driven action – the true tenets that takes someone from average to great.
Keep in mind that while this blog may focus on improvement from men, I would like to point out that AFC’s are an equal opportunity attitude for both genders. I however wanted to take the time and focus my attention on men and how they can fully express their masculine energy into something productive towards their dating goals.
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